It is a rare observation in behavior after men marry?

O.k, this may sound crass. but I really don't mean it too. Of course the bed room has something to do with their ego about themselves. They're men. Men are moved by touch , sight, taste, feel & smell. On the surface anyway. They probably haven't been challenged enough in other areas as well. I empathize with you, but I'm going to tell like my ex-husband once told me, read some literature about your issues. It does help. It woke me up. Men are different then women and it's important to understand along with respecting these differences. Best of wishes.